Thursday, January 28, 2010

A Simple Recipe for Effectiveness

What if I told you I have a simple recipe for increasing effectiveness in all areas of your life? A simple recipe like lather, rinse, repeat.

What if I told you everyone is doing it? Would you be inclined to try it yourself? Seriously, everyone is doing it: McDonald's, Burger King, Taco Bell, JC Penney, Kohls. And not just food service and retail establishments - truck drivers have been doing it for years, though probably not willingly.

What are they all doing? They're asking for feedback. Remember “How's my driving...1-800-xxx-xxxx?”

Now, it's popping up everywhere. Why? Because asking for feedback is the quickest way to find out where you are falling short and where you can improve for the most recognition.

Just asking someone how you are doing often leads to an improved relationship immediately because the person asked feels validated.

How do you do it? Jack Canfield advises you ask everyone in your life, on a scale of 1-10 how am I as parent? Spouse? Employee? And if they don't say 10, ask them what it would take to make it a 10.

I like the scale of 1-10 because it forces the person you ask to actually think about an answer which will lead to useful information. And it pushes you beyond good enough and into greatness. When you figure out how to exceed in your roles by fully understanding the needs and desires of the other people in your relationships you will achieve greatness.

So the first word in our recipe is ASK. And then the next word is ADJUST. Because you asked and you got some goodwill and some good information. But then you have to do something with it. If you are always asking and never changing that's going to turn sour. So what are you going to do with it?

Well, sometimes I hope, you are going to adjust so that you are better meeting the needs and expectations of others in your relationships. If your boss tells you your e-mails are too long, you work at condensing your thoughts. If your partner says you don't call when you're going to be late, you start making those calls. If your kid wishes you would toss a ball, you make some time each week. You adjust.

Now, sometimes of course, the information about what people want is not consistent with what you are willing to provide. I'm sure we've all had jobs in our lives where the boss wanted more than we were willing to deliver whether it's hours worked or weekends. Maybe your kids think you are a number 6 but you could be a number 10 if you didn't hold them accountable for doing their homework.

In those instances your adjustment may be to better communicate your value to your boss and your purpose to your children. But before you jump hastily to the assumption that you are right and the other person is wrong, take an extra moment to consider it from the other person's perspective. This feedback loop works only to the degree you are willing to adjust.

So you ASK, you ADJUST, and now the best part of the loop is REPEAT. Why? Because you asked, you adjusted, and now you are going to ask again. And this time you will hopefully get some acknowledgment of change. Most likely, you are going to get even more goodwill because now this person will trust that communicating to you can make a difference.

Too many times in our lives we feel like we are spinning our wheels and we are not making progress or we are not being recognized and it turns out it is because we were not aware that the things we were doing were not what the other wanted or needed at the time.

Ask, Adjust, Repeat. It takes all the guesswork out of your relationships and gives you the information you need to succeed.

Ask, Adjust, Repeat. A simple recipe for effectiveness.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Canfield E-Coach: Jack Canfield's Mini Coaching Course

Do you need help getting focused and putting the Success Principles to work in your life? Click here to get access to Jack's free e-mail coaching course that will help you solidify a plan and begin creating the life of your dreams.

Enroll today if this sounds like you:
  • You know you are not living up to your potential.
  • You would work hard if you knew you were working smart.
  • You want the life of abundance and prosperity you see others living.

Canfield E-Coach is a short series of e-mails that will reinforce the principles taught in The Success Principles. This e-mail series will help you apply the law of attraction and make lasting behavioral change. You will:

  • Clarify your vision
  • Take action
  • Dream big

Jack can show you how to start living the life of your dreams.

It's your life, isn't it time you got it your way?

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Friday, January 22, 2010

Will a Success Journal Keep You on Track?

Do you feel like you are spinning your wheels some days? You are talking the positive talk and you are trying to believe, but then you wake up and it just feels like you are not making progress. You are still the person you always were in the life you have always lived.

Yes, you are who you have always been, but you are an improved version. And I can prove it to you if you will keep a simple success journal. Everybody gets the blues occasionally because it takes time for some things to manifest. When that happens, a success journal can remind you of all you have manifested so far and help you stay focused on what you can do today.

I like to keep a simple success journal – just three to five entries a month. I don't even write in sentences, often my entries are in the form of lists of my goals, gratitudes, and successes. Whatever is on my mind, I make an appropriate list.

Goals – I list forward thinking achievements, anything that is on my mind for the future: I want to (do something). I put my goals in the form of an action to remind myself that I am not a passive participant but an active player in the drama that is my life. This exercise allows me to record my worries without stating negative thoughts.

Gratitudes - I list all the things I am grateful to have received that I acknowledge are outside my control. Health, life, birthday presents. Gratitude lists are the most important lists I make because they me get out of my own head to a place where I can see how lucky I am.

Successes - I list all my accomplishments. These lists are necessary to fully process a feeling of gratitude. When I feel I am giving myself my props, I feel even more able to acknowledge the blessings in my life. Often I make lists for different time periods: successes in the past year, month, week.

A journal like this will provide you with entries that you can review when you feel blue and see that when you set goals you meet them. Maybe not all of them, all the time, but you will have successes. You will see that a lot of truly blessed things do happen to you. And that overall you achieve a great deal.

You are in control in of your destiny. You can create your happy ending. If you are feeling stuck, check out The Success Principles for proven tips and strategies.

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Thursday, January 21, 2010

The Success Principles 1-Day Workshop 2010 Tour

Jack Canfield is coming to Boston this year!

I had to drive all the way to New Jersey last year just to see Jack.

On a bald tire.

In the rain.

But it was worth it.

If you want to feel a room surge with power, you need to get to one of the workshops this year. Click here to see the schedule and make your date.

Do you know who Jack Canfield is?

He's one of the Chicken Soup guys. He and Mark Victor Hansen have published millions of copies under the imprint of Chicken Soup for the Soul. And he was also one of the teachers featured in the movie "The Secret" and the book by the same name.

Jack knows a great deal about success because he has studied the subject for decades. Through his workshops and coaching programs he has taught thousands to identify their goals and take actionable steps to achieve them.

A Room Full of Joy and Abundance

Last year's Success Principles Workshop provided me several opportunities to network with motivated individuals. Never before have I sat in a room with so many positive, vibrant people at one time. What a place to go and get your dreams acknowledged and affirmed. And what an experience to have so many creative minds brainstorming together.

If you're feeling stuck and you want to get motivated, check out The Success Principles 1-Day Workshop Tour 2010.

See you in Boston May 1st!

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